The loss of a loved one, no matter how or when it happens, is
devastating. Each person encounters the
loss of their loved uniquely and personally.
However, when the death of a loved one happens traumatically and/or
suddenly, most people report an overwhelming sensation of shock, numbness and
disbelief. This surreal feeling can last
for days and even weeks.
Violent deaths and suicides can be terribly agonizing due to the intensity
of the emotional grief reactions.
Seeking additional grief support may be necessary if you find yourself
unable to cope with the overwhelming feelings associated with these kinds of
losses. Help is available through many
religious organizations, community centers and medical centers.
Common
emotional reactions to violent or traumatic deaths include:
- Shock, numbness and disbelief
- A feeling that you are living a “nightmare”
- Intense sadness
- Intense anger, possibly even rage.
- Loss of control
- Powerlessness.
- Extreme vulnerability
- Overwhelming guilt
- Feelings of chaos and worry that you might “go crazy”
- An extended period of grief
Coping with the trauma on top of the pervasive loss of your
loved one can be extremely challenging.
It is important to seek the supportive presence of family or caring
others during your time of need.
People can and eventually do regain a sense of wholeness
after experiencing traumatic loss. Be
patient with yourself and take hope in knowing that the lessons of loss will
lead to a fuller understanding of the meaning of life.
Adapted from Larry A. Platt, PhD., When Death Comes
Unexpectedly
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