Healing from a significant loss is a developmental transition that nearly
all of us will experience within our lives.
The grief process demands that we eventually make many adjustments to changes
in our daily lives. Yet, dramatic change
is often experienced as painful, uncomfortable and downright frightening.
Respecting the emotions of difficult transitions will initially assist you. It is
important to remember that your journey through grief is as unique as your
fingerprint. Therefore, not everyone
will experience the range or order of these emotions as listed below.
The Emotions of
Change:
·
Anxiety – “Can I cope?”
·
Relief – “At last, something’s going to change.”
·
Fear– “How am I going to resume my life?”
·
Denial – “I’m just fine.”
·
Shock – “This is harder than I thought it was
going to be.”
·
Fear – “I don’t think I can get through this.”
·
Threat – “I can’t get through this.”
·
Guilt – “I should’ve _________”
·
Disillusionment – “I quit, this isn’t working
for me.”
·
Depression – “My future is hopeless.”
·
Hostility – “I’ll get through this if it kills
me!”
·
Gradual Acceptance – “I can see myself in the
future.”
·
Moving Forward – “My new life can be fulfilling
and rewarding.”
What is Grief
work?
“Grief work” includes the processes that a mourner needs to complete before
resuming daily life. This can include "completing"
your relationship with the person who died, readjusting to a world without him
or her and forming a new identity and relationships.
Understanding the Six Needs of Mourning may be helpful to you as embrace
your healing process.
The Six Needs of
Mourning:
·
Acknowledge the reality of the death.
·
Embrace the pain of the loss.
·
Remember the person who died
·
Develop a new self-identity
·
Search for meaning
·
Receive on-going support from others.
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